My 13 year old lost his retainer over the weekend. I took him back to where he lost it. I sat and waited while he looked through multiple bags of garbage at a local fast food restaurant. Sadly he couldn’t find it. So the following Tuesday I took him back to the orthodontist where he paid, with his own money, for the replacement.
And where I was judged.
I was judged at many points in this journey. I was judged by the some of the staff and patrons at the fast food restaurants for not helping him look. I was judged by friends and family for my policy of his retainer, his responsibility. And I was judged by the orthodontist staff who fawned over him: “poor _____, you lost your retainer and I am so sorry you have to pay for it.”
My response, tough s*%&. I did not lose the retainer. I was not even there when the retainer was lost. I made it clear the day he got his retainer: if he lost it, he looked for it and if he could not find it, he paid for it. I am not doing anything that I didn’t do myself. When I was in college I chose not to wear my retainer and had to buy a new one when my old one did not fit. I am giving him the option to work off part of the money this summer.
So I ask you, dear blog readers for an honest reaction. I was surprised by the lack of support so maybe I am too harsh. What do you think? Is he learning a valuable lesson?