Saying Goodbye to My “Only”

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onlyBaby Girl,

This is my last letter to you before we become a family of four and before you are no longer our only child. It makes me sad to write this letter because having just you right now as my only child brings me so much happiness and I know our lives are about to change so much. I’m scared of the future and this big change ahead. I’m scared of having to adjust to two children rather than being able to give all of my time and energy to you. I’m feeling anxious about what lies ahead and having to share myself with another child. This doesn’t mean I’m not happy and excited about growing our family and to welcome your Baby Sister, it just means I’m sad that my time alone with you is coming to an end. It’s very bittersweet.

I wish so badly that you would be able to remember your time as an only child. That you could remember when it was just you and I every day. But you won’t. You won’t remember being an only child. You won’t remember when it was just you and I all day every day. You won’t remember the one-on-one undivided attention that you have been given for the past 2 years and 3 months. You won’t remember when you didn’t have to wait your turn, or share all of your things with your sister. You won’t remember when you didn’t have to walk because my hands were full carrying your younger sibling who can’t yet walk on their own. You won’t remember the ease of our days and our nights because there was just you to take care of, just you to get her breakfast or lunch, just you to give a bath, and just you to put to bed. It has been a wonderful, blissful, exciting, and joyous 2 years and 3 months with just you as my child.

So while you won’t remember these times we’ve had and these past 2 years and 3 months, I will. I will remember when it was just you and I every day. I will remember when I could give you my undivided attention. I will remember how wonderful it has been being able to give you ALL of me instead of some of me. I will hold these memories so dear to my heart. They will be treasured memories that I cannot wait to share with you one day. I will make sure to fill you in on our time when it was just you and I all day every day.

I pray you know when your Baby Sister arrives, that I still love you just the same. That I still want to give you all the attention that I possibly can give. That my love for you has not changed. I pray that you don’t feel jealous or left out or pushed aside. I will do my very best to make sure you don’t feel any of these things.

I also pray you feel so much love for your Baby Sister, as I know your Daddy and I can’t wait to meet her. I pray you feel like there’s even MORE love in our family, as I know there will be. I pray you are helpful and excited about being a Big Sister. I pray that you are a wonderful Big Sister.

I have no doubt that you will be. I see it in your eyes when you talk about her. You are SO excited about having a Baby Sister! Although I’m not sure you even completely understand what that means yet.

But you will. We will meet her soon. You will meet her soon. And I can’t wait until the moment that you do!

You will love her. You will be her role model. You will be her companion. You will be her best friend. You will get into mischief together and you will stick up for one another. You will cheer each other on. You will grow old together. You will share in so many of life’s amazing moments together! I can’t wait for you to have a sister to have for the rest of your life! I know from personal experience how awesome it is to have a sister and from the moment I knew this new baby was a little girl I couldn’t help but beam with happiness that you get to experience sisterhood.

So here’s to many wonderful memories when it was just you, when you were my everything. And here’s to many many more wonderful memories of when it will be you and your sister together forever.

I love you so much my precious, Baby Girl.
Love,
Mom


Cincinnati Moms Blog offers a special thank you to today’s guest blogger: Tabitha Kassin.

kassin-5Tabitha’s Bio: Tabitha is a stay-at-home mom who lives in Cincinnati, Ohio.  She and her husband have been married for three and a half years.  Together they have one daughter and are currently expecting their second child, another girl.  Tabitha was formerly in the HR industry before deciding to stay home and raise her children and also has a BS in Early Childhood Education.  She loves her role as a stay-at-home mom and finds it to be the most rewarding and fulfilling job she’ll ever have the pleasure of keeping.

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